Hey Reader! If you feel like you missed the boat, I get it. We've all had days when we beat ourselves up for missing some opportunity. But the truth is, it's never too late. The perfect time to act is always now. Why is it never too late? If you've been with me for a while, you know comparison is the thief of joy. When we see other people achieving their dreams while we feel stuck, it's hard to root for them. Instead, our egos prompt us to gripe, "Why not me?" This reaction is based on an...
7 days ago • 4 min read
Hey Reader! If we are how we act, then what role do emotions play? Marcus Aurelius would tell you they're just wild horses ready to lead you to ruin. Put a bit in their mouth and rein them in. They'll break eventually, and then you can be your own master. But, in my experience, violent repression leads to eventual disruption. Far better, then, to ride the tides of ebb and flow. Everything reverts to the mean Ten years ago, I was drowning. I couldn't catch a breath without sobbing. My role as...
15 days ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader! In the Harry Potter books, there's an enemy that no one refers to by name. In fact, they often refer to him as "He-who-shall-not-be-named." I've written before about how the words you speak have power. Then, I focused on the personal impact. Now feels like a good time to talk about the role our words and focus play in feeding and encouraging negative situations, habits, and people. Attention becomes intention If you've ever flirted with manifestation, you've probably heard...
22 days ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader! Much of my career has been spent in the event industry alongside incredibly capable, detail-oriented people. Talk about multi-taskers—event planners do more before lunch than most of us manage in a week. But there's a downside to being so go-go-go. When high achievers struggle, they often do it in silence, putting more pressure on themselves. Co-workers and friends miss the warning signs. The eventual breakdowns can be messy. It doesn't have to be that way. There are some simple...
29 days ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader! For most of my adult life, I've lived by a philosophy my friend calls, "Do no harm, and take no shit." It gives me the freedom to trust my gut, meet my needs, and have fun without excusing me from recognizing that my actions do affect others. This alignment with my personal truth and core values often keeps my inner critic at bay. But I also am a mom. So I'm not immune to critique or self-doubt. Nothing makes me second-guess myself like my child's disapproval. When I incur that,...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader! Over the past few weeks, we've covered: The foundation of dysfunction: Lack of trust The fear of conflict caused by feeling unsafe The isolation that occurs when you lack commitment The resulting gap in accountability that occurs Today, we'll cover one of the biggest stumbling blocks that keeps us stuck: inattention to results. What inattention to results looks like Inattention to results doesn't mean you lack goals. It doesn't indicate a lack of work ethic, either. You might be...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader! When you were growing up, were you allowed to make mistakes? Or were you afraid of failure? If you were raised in an atmosphere where mistakes were equated with failing, chances are you still struggle with accepting responsibility for your actions. This week's challenge will help you address issues related to accountability. This is part four of a five-part series on common behaviors that get you stuck. If you're just joining in, here's what you've missed: The foundation of...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader! This week, we'll continue to explore the different dysfunctional ways we detach from ourselves and get stuck living someone else's narrative. If you're just jumping in, here's what you've missed: The foundation of dysfunction: Lack of trust The fear of conflict caused by not feeling safe If you've stopped trusting your gut and begun avoiding conflict, the next dysfunction to appear is a lack of commitment. How the lack of trust and conflict avoidance impedes growth All growth...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader! Last week, I challenged you to rebuild your self-trust. This week, I want to address the fear of conflict and share an exercise that can help you have more constructive conversations. We're working from the bottom of Patrick Lencioni's pyramid of success to the top, fixing the dysfunctions we encounter along the way. Where does fear come from? Evolutionarily speaking, fear exists to help us. After all, our fears prevent us from entering dangerous situations or places where we may...
2 months ago • 5 min read